Knowing how to have an effective face to face conversation with a woman is one of the best skills that a guy can have and as it stands right now,  sometimes it seems as though that is quickly becoming something that is getting lost. More and more men are relying on using text messages or instant messages to try and communicate to a woman and while those mediums certainly do have their place, nothing speeds up the attraction process like mastering the art of face to face conversation with a woman. If you struggle with coming up with what to say to a woman, then you may want to keep reading.

Men mostly focus on checking out a woman’s physical attributes in order to get turned on, while women are much more likely to be aroused by their emotions.   Knowing how to use conversation to trigger those emotions is the key to being able to really get a woman turned on. That’s why it is important that you are able to come up with the right things to say so that you can use conversation as a way to seduce a woman you are interested in.

It’s always a good thing for a guy to be able to come up with the right things to say to get a woman turned on and attracted to you.

These three tips might help you to master the art of conversation and always feel like you know exactly what to say to attract and arouse a woman you like:

  1. Flatter her with a compliment that sounds like it is real and not just something that you are saying to try and score brownie points with.
    Faking compliments is what most men end up doing when they are trying to figure out how to flatter a woman and you know what? For the most part,   women know when a guy is just pulling something out of thin air to try and flatter them. That usually makes the compliment seem phony and almost worthless. On the other hand, when it seems natural and like you really mean it, then it has a completely different effect on a woman. The more real the compliment seems, and the more it seems like you are just noticing something about her and not trying to suck up to her, the more impact that it will have.
    Here is an example of what you might say to a woman you think has beautiful eyes: (Pausing) «Wow, your eyes are a really cool shade of blue. Very nice.» See something like that is not over the top, it sounds like you really mean it, and it also will probably be very flattering to a woman. This is why something so simple such as that can have such a great impact on your ability to create attraction with a woman.
  2. Don’t be afraid to compliment her on something that is often seen as being sexual, as long as you don’t seem to be fixated on it.
    Most women actually don’t mind if you tell them that they have an attractive figure or that they have one body part in particular that you think is hot. What tends to be creepy or just plain unwanted is when you seem to be totally fixated on it. Kind of like the cliche example of a woman not wanting a guy to just look at her breasts the whole time that he is talking to her.
    Here is an example of what you might say: «You have really long legs, I kind of like that. I’m a little bit of a leg man.» While you say this, it’s okay to have a look, but then you want to come right back up and make eye contact with her. That way, you are showing her that you do really like what you see, but you are not just fixated on staring at that part of her.
  3. Ask her what she thinks on a topic that seems to be of interest to her.
    This is something that helps once you have gotten the conversation started a little bit. If you can tell that there is something that seems to a topic of real interest to her, get her talking about it and hear her opinions. Women love to be heard, and you want to show her that you are the kind of guy who will listen to what she actually has to say.

Here is an example of what I mean: She brings up the topic of literature and mentions that she likes poetry. You ask her, «What is the best poem that you have ever read and why do you think it is the best?» Even if she does not come up with an answer to the exact question that you asked, I guarantee that it will get the conversation rolling along and she will appreciate the fact that you really do seem to want to know her opinions on something that she really is into.

These are just some examples of what you can say to a woman. At the very least,   there are plenty of questions that you can ask to help get the conversation started. All in all, the more genuine that you are when you are talking to a woman, the better. The fewer long pauses that there are without any conversation between you and her,   the better as well. You want to be able to really show a woman that you can handle the face to face conversation, because there are plenty of men who don’t know what to say to a woman they like, and you don’t want to come across as being one of those guys.