Anonymous asked: I got it bad for a new guy AGAIN. I let things just go with the flow and we already got uh… pretty damn far (I know you know what I mean). And after, he was the same. Neither of us treated it like it was that big of a deal. It was really amazing. We hung out for the entire next day and went to a movie and ordered out for dinner and sat talking all night. It’s been hard not to contact him all day when I’ve peeked at his FB picture 5 times. How do I continue without losing the magic there?

Well, to be honest, the magic usually lasts anywhere from 3-12 months, but all relationships do change over time. But if you’re worried about losing the magic in a short period of time—don’t be! The butterflies will last for awhile longer, and you’ll find that when you’re in his company, you will not be able to help yourself from feeling giddy and in love! Let it just happen! The more you obsess over him the more intense it will get and you risk making yourself act overbearing, so my advice would be to stay away from his FB page and try to think about and do other things to keep yourself busy. When you guys do get together, the magic will come back, you don’t need to work at keeping it there. 🙂

The biggest mistake most women make in these situations is not controlling themselves and contacting the guy TOO MUCH! Remember, absence is what makes the male heart grow fonder. Men go crazy for women who ignore and/or barely pay attention to them, especially following a great romantic encounter. They think «well all the other girls blow up my phone and come after me, why isn’t she?? Does she have another man? Was I not good enough for her?» and they just can’t stop thinking about you and wondering how they can get your attention (and great sex) back.

So my advice to you is—wait for him to contact you back, and when he does, be yourself but try not to give him too many indicators that you’re *really* into him. Let him work a bit to get back together with you. But when you guys meet again—let the magic you felt come back alive and wow him again with how amazing your chemistry with him is.

If you’re interested in playing for keeps, that’s how you do it. Be different from typical women and make him work to get your attention, and work to make you his. The worst thing, again, that women can do is be clingy or too interested. Men LOVE having to work for what they have, so make him do just that! It won’t destroy the magic—only enhance it!