It can be one of the hardest tasks for a man to undertake: finding a girlfriend.
It’s hard enough to gain the attention of a woman and get a date going with her, but this can be even more difficult when the girl of your dreams hasn’t shown any interest in you to begin with.
not interested

If she’s NOT interested’

Lots of guys try fruitlessly to attract the attention of a girl of their dreams. You’ve probably been in this position yourself, trying over and over. However, nothing ever works and most of the dating advice you get is ineffective.
So, what do you do? Turn your luck around with these tips, and you could finally get the girl you want!

Don’t Focus Solely on Her

What’s YOUR passion?
This is important. It’s very easy to get a bit of tunnel vision when trying to win the affections of a girl. You get all wrapped up in trying to get her to like you. You focus on her. You forget to focus on yourself.

This may seem like a good way of showing her how you are interested in her, but you need to be interesting as well! Remember to always maintain a life outside of any girl you are into. Keep your hobbies, friends, and interests going. This will make you more interesting to her.

Always Look Your Best

NOT like this (sorry’ I went blind for a minute there’)
They say that the clothes make the man, and there is much truth in that statement. Of course you want to look good for a first date, but try to keep your style in mind even when casually meeting a girl you have your eyes on. Your clothes can say a lot about you, after all.

If you are always wearing wrinkled up old t-shirts, any girl will care less about you than if you wore a nicely ironed button-up. Ultimately, take your style and pay attention to the small details to really make it shine.

A few quick tips on how to select clothes.

First, make sure your clothes fit you. Proper fit makes all the difference in the world in making you look good. Then, pick out clothing that suits the occasion or setting. A suit and tie won’t work at a casual restaurant for instance, and a heavy wool sweater won’t work in Southern California. Finally, pick something that fits your style. So, fit, material, and then style. Attention to these details will get you noticed.

Just Talk to Her!

She’s more than a piece of meat!
It’s remarkable how many guys mess this one up. When you want a girl to like you, the easiest thing to do is simply talk to her. You don’t have to actively hit on her. You don’t have to pull out some tired, worn-out pickup line. Just get a conversation started. Things can branch out in all directions from there.

This is where that first tip really pays off, by the way. If you maintain an active life outside of this girl, you should have more than enough to talk about when the moment presents itself. That way you can show just what kind of a guy you are, and she can get a chance to realize what she likes about you.

However, don’t over-do it. You don’t have to talk to this girl absolutely every time you see her. A full conversation every time you bump into each other can be overwhelming and come off as clingy. Sometimes, just say hello and move on with your day.

Start Flirting (After You Are Friends)

You wanna be like this guy
Some guys seem to have a dreaded fear of the infamous ‘friend zone’. As such, they sometimes can be very all or nothing when trying to get a girl to notice them.

This isn’t how people get to know one another, unfortunately.

You and the girl you want will become friends over time through continued conversation and shared interests. Once you are friends, you will become a bit more comfortable around one another and will become more familiar with one another. This is where a little more flirty and playful behavior can come in.

Don’t go too hard on the flirting. Just have some fun. Show that you are available. Indicate that you are interested in her. This is where you can really start to point things in the direction you ultimately want them to go, but just be sure to not hurry things along too quickly for her.

Break the Touch Barrier

Don’t be afraid to touch’
There are a number of differences in how men and women react to actions around them. One such difference lies in the way we react to physical contact and touching. Women react much more strongly to touch than men do, and this can be a vital difference, especially once you have gotten to the point of playful flirtation with a girl you are interested in.

If you both go to a restaurant, help her take off her coat. If you are walking together, touch her hand. Small touches signal connection and will make her much more receptive to you and more interested in you down the road. Breaking the touch barrier also makes it clear that you are interested in her and comfortable around her.

Don’t Be Clingy

STOP IT!
Again, we come back to the original idea in the first tip: don’t put all of your focus on her. A huge part of this comes in not being clingy. Clinginess is one of the single least attractive traits in a guy, and no girl is going to put up with it. The same applies for pushiness and general neediness.

Just play it cool. Express you interest in her, by all means. Talk to her. Flirt a bit. Break the touch barrier. However, just don’t push any of these tips too far, or else you will risk as coming off as needy and clingy. In fact, women are more interested in guys that can effectively manage their emotions, never showing any one emotion too strongly.

With these tips, and perhaps a little luck, you should be able to get the attention of the girl you’ve had your heart set on. Oh, and remember: be you.